Hi. This is Dr. Fab Mancini, and welcome to the Dr. Fab Show. And on this episode, I want to talk to you about comparisons. You see, one of my biggest fears, one of my biggest challenges was the fact that I was comparing myself to others.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
2. Know that you are enough and deserving.
3. Find the purpose , it’s there.
You know, I still remember sitting at a Parker seminar when I was in my first trimester at Parker in Dallas, Texas.
And there was a speaker there named Dr. John Demartini.
I never forget that I was watching this guy speak, and I was just taken by him, but I saw myself in him.
I saw myself doing what he was doing even though I’d never been a public speaker before that time.
I started working on it, and I tell you, I was so nervous that the first speech that I booked for the next…
I think it was three months…
I was so nervous.
I wrote my talk out, and it was too long.
I was sweating.
I muffled my words.
I wasn’t know what to expect, but I did it.
And that’s really what it takes.
Hi. This is Dr. Fab Mancini, and welcome to the Dr. Fab Show.
And on this episode, I want to talk to you about comparisons.
You see, one of my biggest fears, one of my biggest challenges was the fact that I was comparing myself to others.
I was comparing myself with Dr. John Demartini.
I was comparing myself with Dr. Parker.
I was comparing myself with Les Brown, with Mark Victor Hansen, with Brian Tracy, some of my mentors that I’ve been listening to, and I said, “If I’m gonna be a public speaker, I need to be like them.”
And guess what?
That’s never the case.
You can only be the best version of yourself.
And that’s one of the things that I wanna share with you, is that in order to be successful in life, you gotta stop comparing yourself to others.
It’s one of the most limiting factors in limiting people’s success, growth…
Limiting their potential.
So the first thing that I want to share with you is this.
Stop comparing yourself to others, period.
Stop comparing yourself to others because when you do that, all of the sudden you give yourself permission to make mistakes, to be yourself, to figure out how you’re gonna be able to funnel or navigate through this journey just like I did.
You know, in a short amount of time, I was speaking in the same stages with some of the biggest names in the world in public speaking.
Over the last 27 years, I’ve been speaking non-stop throughout the world, getting paid a lot of money to speak.
Because I did not compare myself.
From the beginning, I realized that I could not be a Dr. Parker, that I could not be a Les Brown, that I could not be a Dr. Demartini, that I could not be any of these wonderful mentors that I had.
I had to be myself.
So stop comparing yourself to other people.
The second thing that I tell you that I’ve learned is that know that you’re enough and you are deserving of whatever you’re doing.
You see, most of us don’t think that we’re enough.
We’re always feeling like we have to learn more, we have to do more instead of just being more.
Look, an opportunity will never come to you unless you are ready to seize it.
The problem is that most of us second guess ourselves because we don’t think we’re ready.
We don’t think we’re worthy.
And I want you to know that you are ready and you are worthy.
Whatever your mind is thinking, whatever it is that you’re wanting to do right now, just do it like Nike says.
Just do it because you’re more than worthy of it.
And you’re ready otherwise it wouldn’t be coming your way.
The opportunities don’t come unless you’re prepared to handle them.
And the last thing that I would tell you in this ability not to compare ourselves is to find a purpose.
Find a purpose that allows you to truly give the best of yourself.
You see, I find in my life that whenever
I supported a purpose that was so powerful, that was gonna help so many people, I wasn’t comparing myself anymore.
I didn’t wanna compare myself to people that were doing things that I wasn’t able to do at the moment.
But I was actually doing things that they were looking at it and saying, “Oh my gosh. I wanna be hanging around that kid because look at what he’s doing.”
Please, find a purpose that it will be the driving factor that would allow you to recognize that you are your own unique individual.
That whatever format or whatever pathway you choose for yourself is the right pathway.
Even if you go through little turns and twists, even if you hit a bump, even if you hit all of those things, it’s part of your journey, and that’s what counts.
The bottom line?
You’ve gotta stop comparing.
Compare yourself only to yourself.
Only do things for yourself, making sure that in the future, you don’t do things for the comparison of other people.
If you liked this video, I want you to share it with as many people as you can.
And, look, this episode was one that I wanted to do for you because I know that some of us are comparing ourselves to others too many times.
So stop doing that, and start living your life that the video describes.
I hope you enjoyed this episode, and I’ll see you on the next one.